well, u tell me.

have u heard of usrah?
i'm sure u've heard of it.

well, there's something bothering me.
a few friends, join usrah and they are two of them.
they are our housemates too.

well, last time, one of them asked me if i would like to join them but i said i didnt want to.
well, i know i'm being a little bit arrogant but i've had enough if it during school.

why should i do something just for the sake of others, right?

but thats not the issue.
in our house, there are many others and i thought,
these two who joined usrah had done the same they did to me to others,
which is trying to recruit them to join this usrah
but shockingly,
they didnt.

when i learned the truth,
they had never talked about it unless when the others asked them.
they have never asked the others to join the usrah as the way they asked me.

well, they did invite the others but its more like 'ajak-ajak ayam'.

now, the issue here is, why is the situation like that?
well, for me, its maybe assumptions.

and there was also one time when the other members in the usrah came and visit the
hostel but once again, i'm shocked when i learned that they are not very friendly as what
ones in a religious group should be.
why would expect them to be this way?

this is because
when u r in one group who are supposed to ask others to do good,
shouldnt u be the one who start everything?
i mean, talk to others, despite sitting down in a halaqah and start ur usrah WITHOUT
asking the others at all whether they feel like sitting down together with the group.
shouldnt it be that way?

this is what i meant by assumption.
the two may assume that the others have no interest in this usrah thing
when they actually do.
its just that they wonder when would they be invited seriously.

and the others of course wouldn't want to take the first step as they dont really understand the situation.
i understand dearly their feelings.

and i understand too why the two dont really feel like asking.
usrah these days arent really the thing that teenagers feel like doing.
seriously.
if not, i wouldnt have rejected their offer.
hahaha.

but true enough,
those who join usrah would on the spot understand that they are in the minority group and thats for sure.
therefore, they would want others to ask them first about it,
not them taking the first step.

this is what i meant by assumptions.
and true enough,
assumptions do more harm than good.
trust me.